Don’t aim to be popular, aim to be real

This little one liner of wisdom came from none other than Nikki Sixx, the legendary bass player and creative force behind the rock group Motley Crue.

“Don’t aim to be popular, aim to be real”

Nikki used this sentence in reference to advice he would share with musicians and artists on how to approach the art of creativity today.

This got me thinking, surely this is all we should ask of ourselves in anything we do?

Whether in work, in social circles and I suppose all areas of life, should we not aim to be just us, to be real.

It’s easy for all of us to chase the allure of fame and fortune, but what happens if you catch it? Would you be happy with the person you are/ have become to get those things.

Much to ponder…………

Alas what road do we choose? the route of popularity, which is no doubt littered with the crushing of personal values and the continual denial of one’s self or maybe, just maybe we can aim to be real in whatever we do.


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Facilitate not command and control

A common theme I find in my work of delivering large scale learning programmes and when I’ve delivered projects too, has been understanding the multiple elements to your role in the grand scheme of things.

I’ve come to appreciate that a large part of my role is to facilitate collaboration, creativity and delivery of the work. What it is not to do and it’s actually something that I’ve seen too many people do, is to command and control everything.

For a programme and project manager this is detrimental not only to the success of your project or programme, yet also to the engagement and respect you get from the people around you.

I like to apply this same principle in other areas of life too. I look to facilitate and be adept to change, not trying to control everything and command everyone to what I want/need.

I don’t believe you’ll find much success in work or life if you take an approach of control and command. Of course in some cases when the chips are down and people need leadership, you may need to take control of something to bring it back on course.

What is not necessary, is to look to command and control every little thing.


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