Gardening, Google, learning new stuff & hipster tea.

To keep my mind healthy and practice what I preach in learning new things. I’ve been building my skills in the world of indoor gardening. Very basic skills, but nonetheless I’ve been up-skilling myself in the ways of keeping my plants alive.

I’m sharing this random bit of personal detail with you to demonstrate an important point that connects to a sizeable part of the philosophy that drives my work in learning, human development and managing the monkey mind.

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The cost of kindness

There isn’t one, it’s free.

So why not be good to your fellow human, wave at people, say hello – be a kind person.

It cost us nothing to be kind to another human and it even might make you feel a little bit happier too. When you see someone who looks down, then fire them a smile or when someone looks like today is not their day, then a simple hey, how are you? can go a long way.

You can change someones world in a moment with an act of kindness, an act at no cost to any of us but it’s rewards can be limitless.

You can feel good, make others feel good and put some more good out into this world, because we honestly need more of it. You’d be surprised at how kind many people are, can be and will be when you make a little effort.

Remember the cost of kindness is always free, so why don’t we use it a little more?

Here’s my act of kindness to let you know:


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It’s simple enough if it’s straight from the heart

What bothers you so?

Communicating what you want doesn’t have to be so complicated. Following that dream or diverting your current course doesn’t have to be complicated either.

To know what you want only requires a look inside. Do not been swayed by the expectations of society, the lure of status or the want to be accepted if it is in conflict with your whole being.

If you feel it then you should listen, as it’s you and only you who has to live with these matters. So whether, it’s telling that person how you really feel about them, saying no to that opportunity that doesn’t feel quite right or even yes to the one that does.

It’s always simple enough if it’s straight from the heart.


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You are going to be OK

These are the most powerful and kind words that I say to myself every morning.

My mind is like a race track sometimes, full of fast paced thoughts that try and sometimes do overwhelm me on a daily basis, so it’s important that I remind myself that come whatever may, I’m going to be OK.

Something I feel we could all learn to do more of, is to show kindness and understanding to ourselves. We are the first person to kick ourselves when we are down, yet we would not imagine doing this to another person right? so why do we treat ourselves this way.

Self-love is a term that many people despise hearing but it’s actually really important. Most of us would never dream of talking to others that we care for, the way that we talk to ourselves. This is the case for me on many occasions where I’m the first to offer support and compassion to my loved ones, but I’ll treat myself the complete opposite way.

The act of learning to be more compassionate and understanding to ourselves, reminds me of this quote from Jack Kornfield:

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.”

So maybe we need just a little more love for ourselves in this world too.

To show kindness, compassion and understanding to ourselves may just allow us to show more to others. Life is crazy, shit happens and most of it is never in our control but it is in our reaction to those times of hardship that we can show a little more love for ourselves.

Because I can tell you now, come whatever may – You are going to be OK

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The problem with hindsight

Everything seems easy when you look back.

I could have done this or I should have done that, you might say to yourself over and over. Yet, you forget that you did whatever you did based on what you knew at the time and this is all any of us ever have – this moment.

That’s the ultimate problem with hindsight, it’s an alluring false reality of what could have been, because it would have never been.

We can all only do what we know to be the best in this moment right now, we can only make decisions or take actions on what we know to be right or true in this moment, not 3 weeks from now.

So don’t be so hard on yourself, realise that you did the best you could in what you knew at that time and no deep dive hindsight party in your head will ever change that.

It’s like Theodore Roosevelt perfectly summed up – “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are”


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