Don’t aim to be popular, aim to be real

This little one liner of wisdom came from none other than Nikki Sixx, the legendary bass player and creative force behind the rock group Motley Crue.

“Don’t aim to be popular, aim to be real”

Nikki used this sentence in reference to advice he would share with musicians and artists on how to approach the art of creativity today.

This got me thinking, surely this is all we should ask of ourselves in anything we do?

Whether in work, in social circles and I suppose all areas of life, should we not aim to be just us, to be real.

It’s easy for all of us to chase the allure of fame and fortune, but what happens if you catch it? Would you be happy with the person you are/ have become to get those things.

Much to ponder…………

Alas what road do we choose? the route of popularity, which is no doubt littered with the crushing of personal values and the continual denial of one’s self or maybe, just maybe we can aim to be real in whatever we do.

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You are not defined by your parents blueprint

A quick note before we begin:

This is a topic I’ve wanted to write about for sometime, it’s actually been in the works for nearly 8 months.

I’ve always been fascinated by human behaviour and exploring why we do the things we do. As a society, mental health issues have been on a scary increase over the last 10-15 years and particularly in my generation, the anointed ‘millennials’.

I’m a believer in the fact that all of us in some way are dealing with the mechanics of a path and way of engaging with the world that we did not choose when we were infants, being most likely thrust upon us by those who raised us. As I’ve grown older, it’s become pretty clear to me that many of us struggle daily, because some of the things we have been taught in the environment from our younger years don’t actually help us live a good life now.

This post is not me telling you what to do, rather it’s a bunch of thoughts and insights that I feel can help you find some understanding in why you operate the way you do, whether that’s in how you think, feel or behave. It’s ultimately about recognising that you have a choice in everything in life and we have the power to change anything.

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The dangers of not moving forward and being true to yourself

I’ve had several conversations of late around change, the effect it can have on one’s life and why it’s an evolutionary necessity to reach your potential.

Many of these conversations have focused around the fear of change, the uncertainty it brings and the opportunity for failure or embarrassment if it all goes wrong.

It made me think about what embracing change, moving forward and why respecting this is part of life is so important in reaching new levels. You see if we always resist change, not only do we deny ourselves the opportunity to explore what could be, we also stop being true to ourselves.

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